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Interviewer: Esther S. Pinnix
Person Interviewed: Betty Cofer
Location: North Carolina
Date of Birth: 1856
Negro Folk Lore Of The Piedmont.
Sources of Information: Aunt Betty Cofer–ex-slave of Dr. Beverly Jones
The ranks of negro ex-slaves are rapidly thinning out, but, scattered here and there among the ante-bellum families of the South, may be found a few of these picturesque old characters. Three miles north of Bethania, the second oldest settlement of the “Unitas Fratrum” in Wachovia, lies the 1500 acre Jones plantation. It has been owned for several generations by the one family, descendants of Abraham Conrad. Conrad’s daughter, Julia, married a physician of note, Dr. Beverly Jones, whose family occupied the old homestead at the time of the Civil War.
Here, in 1856, was born a negro girl, Betty, to a slave mother. Here, today, under the friendly protection of this same Jones family, surrounded by her sons and her sons’ sons, lives this same Betty in her own little weather-stained cottage. Encircling her house are lilacs, althea, and flowering trees that soften the bleak outlines of unpainted out-buildings. A varied collection of old-fashioned plants and flowers crowd the neatly swept dooryard. A friendly German-shepherd puppy rouses from his nap on the sunny porch to greet visitors enthusiastically. In answer to our knock a gentle voice calls, “Come in.” The door opens directly into a small, low-ceilinged room almost filled by two double beds. These beds are conspicuously clean and covered by homemade crocheted spreads. Wide bands of hand-made insertion ornament the stiffly starched pillow slips. Against the wall is a plain oak dresser. Although the day is warm, two-foot logs burn on the age-worn andirons of the wide brick fire place. From the shelf above dangles a leather bag of “spills” made from twisted newspapers.
In a low, split-bottom chair, her rheumatic old feet resting on the warm brick hearth, sits Aunt Betty Cofer. Her frail body stoops under the weight of four-score years but her bright eyes and alert mind are those of a woman thirty years younger. A blue-checked mob cap covers her grizzled hair. Her tiny frame, clothed in a motley collection of undergarments, dress, and sweaters, is adorned by a clean white apron. Although a little shy of her strange white visitors, her innate dignity, gentle courtesy, and complete self possession indicate long association with “quality folks.”
Her speech shows a noticeable freedom from the usual heavy negro dialect and idiom of the deep south. “Yes, Ma’am, yes, Sir, come in. Pull a chair to the fire. You’ll have to ‘scuse me. I can’t get around much, ’cause my feet and legs bother me, but I got good eyes an’ good ears an’ all my own teeth. I aint never had a bad tooth in my head. Yes’m, I’m 81, going on 82. Marster done wrote my age down in his book where he kep’ the names of all his colored folks. Muh (Mother) belonged to Dr. Jones but Pappy belonged to Marse Israel Lash over yonder. (Pointing northwest.) Younguns always went with their mammies so I belonged to the Joneses.
“Muh and Pappy could visit back and forth sometimes but they never lived together ’til after freedom. Yes’m, we was happy. We got plenty to eat. Marster and old Miss Julia (Dr. Jones’ wife, matriarch of the whole plantation) was mighty strict but they was good to us. Colored folks on some of the other plantations wasn’t so lucky. Some of’ em had overseers, mean, cruel men. On one plantation the field hands had to hustle to git to the end of the row at eleven o’clock dinner-time ’cause when the cooks brought their dinner they had to stop just where they was and eat, an’ the sun was mighty hot out in those fields. They only had ash cakes (corn pone baked in ashes) without salt, and molasses for their dinner, but we had beans an’ grits an’ salt an’ sometimes meat.
“I was lucky. Miss Ella (daughter of the first Beverly Jones) was a little girl when I was borned and she claimed me. We played together an’ grew up together. I waited on her an’ most times slept on the floor in her room. Muh was cook an’ when I done got big enough I helped to set the table in the big dinin’ room. Then I’d put on a clean white apron an’ carry in the victuals an’ stand behind Miss Ella’s chair. She’d fix me a piece of somethin’ from her plate an’ hand it back over her shoulder to me (eloquent hands illustrate Miss Ella’s making of a sandwich.) I’d take it an’ run outside to eat it. Then I’d wipe my mouth an’ go back to stand behind Miss Ella again an’ maybe get another snack.
“Yes’m, there was a crowd of hands on the plantation. I mind ’em all an’ I can call most of their names. Mac, Curley, William, Sanford, Lewis, Henry, Ed, Sylvester, Hamp, an’ Juke was the men folks. The women was Nellie, two Lucys, Martha, Nervie, Jane, Laura, Fannie, Lizzie, Cassie, Tensie, Lindy, an’ Mary Jane. The women mostly, worked in the house. There was always two washwomen, a cook, some hands to help her, two sewin’ women, a house girl, an’ some who did all the weavin’ an’ spinnin’. The men worked in the fields an’ yard. One was stable boss an’ looked after all the horses an’ mules. We raised our own flax an’ cotton an’ wool, spun the thread, wove the cloth, made all the clothes. Yes’m, we made the mens’ shirts an’ pants an’ coats. One woman knitted all the stockin’s for the white folks an’ colored folks too. I mind she had one finger all twisted an’ stiff from holdin’ her knittin’ needles. We wove the cotton an’ linen for sheets an’ pillow-slips an’ table covers. We wove the wool blankets too. I use to wait on the girl who did the weavin’ when she took the cloth off the loom she done give me the ‘thrums’ (ends of thread left on the loom.) I tied ’em all together with teensy little knots an’ got me some scraps from the sewin’ room and I made me some quilt tops. Some of ’em was real pretty too! (Pride of workmanship evidenced by a toss of Betty’s head.)
“All our spinnin’ wheels and flax wheels and looms was hand-made by a wheel wright, Marse Noah Westmoreland. He lived over yonder. (A thumb indicates north.) Those old wheels are still in the family’. I got one of the flax wheels. Miss Ella done give it to me for a present. Leather was tanned an’ shoes was made on the place. ‘Course the hands mostly went barefoot in warm weather, white chillen too. We had our own mill to grind the wheat and corn an’ we raised all our meat. We made our own candles from tallow and beeswax. I ‘spect some of the old candle moulds are over to ‘the house’ now. We wove our own candle wicks too. I never saw a match ’til I was a grown woman. We made our fire with flint an’ punk (rotten wood). Yes’m, I was trained to cook an’ clean an’ sew. I learned to make mens’ pants an’ coats. First coat I made, Miss Julia told me to rip the collar off, an’ by the time I picked out all the teensy stitches an’ sewed it together again I could set a collar right! I can do it today, too! (Again there is manifested a good workman’s pardonable pride of achievement)
“Miss Julia cut out all the clothes herself for men and women too. I ‘spect her big shears an’ patterns an’ old cuttin’ table are over at the house now. Miss Julia cut out all the clothes an’ then the colored girls sewed ’em up but she looked ’em all over and they better be sewed right! Miss Julia bossed the whole plantation. She looked after the sick folks and sent the doctor (Dr. Jones) to dose ’em and she carried the keys to the store-rooms and pantries. [HW: paragraph mark here.] Yes’m, I’m some educated. Muh showed me my ‘a-b-abs’ and my numbers and when I was fifteen I went to school in the log church built by the Moravians. They give it to the colored folks to use for their own school and church. (This log house is still standing near Bethania). Our teacher was a white man, Marse Fulk. He had one eye, done lost the other in the war. We didn’t have no colored teachers then. They wasn’t educated. We ‘tended school four months a year. I went through the fifth reader, the ‘North Carolina Reader’. I can figger a little an’ read some but I can’t write much ’cause my fingers ‘re–all stiffened up. Miss Julia use to read the bible to us an’ tell us right an’ wrong, and Muh showed me all she could an’ so did the other colored folks. Mostly they was kind to each other.
“No’m, I don’t know much about spells an’ charms. Course most of the old folks believed in ’em. One colored man use to make charms, little bags filled with queer things. He called ’em ‘jacks’ an’ sold ’em to the colored folks an’ some white folks too.
“Yes’m, I saw some slaves sold away from the plantation, four men and two women, both of ’em with little babies. The traders got ’em. Sold ’em down to Mobile, Alabama. One was my pappy’s sister. We never heard from her again. I saw a likely young feller sold for $1500. That was my Uncle Ike. Marse Jonathan Spease bought him and kept him the rest of his life.
“Yes’m, we saw Yankee soldiers. (Stoneman’s Cavalry in 1865.) They come marchin’ by and stopped at ‘the house. I wasn’t scared ’cause they was all talkin’ and laughin’ and friendly but they sure was hongry. They dumped the wet clothes out of the big wash-pot in the yard and filled it with water. Then they broke into the smokehouse and got a lot of hams and biled ’em in the pot and ate ’em right there in the yard. The women cooked up a lot of corn pone for ’em and coffee too. Marster had a barrel of ‘likker’ put by an’ the Yankees knocked the head in an’ filled their canteens. There wasn’t ary drop left. When we heard the soldiers comin’ our boys turned the horses loose in the woods. The Yankees said they had to have ’em an’ would burn the house down if we didn’t get ’em. So our boys whistled up the horses an’ the soldiers carried ’em all off. They carried off ol’ Jennie mule too but let little Jack mule go. When the soldiers was gone the stable boss said,’if ol’ Jennie mule once gits loose nobody on earth can catch her unless she wants. She’ll be back!’ Sure enough, in a couple of days she come home by herself an’ we worked the farm jus’ with her an’ little Jack.
“Some of the colored folks followed the Yankees away. Five or six of our boys went. Two of ’em travelled as far as Yadkinville but come back. The rest of ’em kep’ goin’ an’ we never heard tell of’ em again.
“Yes’m, when we was freed Pappy come to get Muh and me. We stayed around here. Where could we go? These was our folks and I couldn’t go far away from Miss Ella. We moved out near Rural Hall (some 5 miles from Bethania) an’ Pappy farmed, but I worked at the home place a lot. When I was about twenty-four Marse R. J. Reynolds come from Virginia an’ set up a tobacco factory. He fotched some hands with ‘im. One was a likely young feller, named Cofer, from Patrick County, Virginia. I liked ‘im an’ we got married an’ moved back here to my folks.(the Jones family) We started to buy our little place an’ raise a family. I done had four chillen but two’s dead. I got grandchillen and great-grandchillen close by. This is home to us. When we talk about the old home place (the Jones residence, now some hundred years old) we just say ‘the house’ ’cause there’s only one house to us. The rest of the family was all fine folks and good to me but I loved Miss Ella better’n any one or anythin’ else in the world. She was the best friend I ever had. If I ever wanted for anythin’ I just asked her an she give it to me or got it for me somehow. Once when Cofer was in his last sickness his sister come from East Liverpool, Ohio, to see ‘im. I went to Miss Ella to borrow a little money. She didn’t have no change but she just took a ten dollar bill from her purse an’ says ‘Here you are, Betty, use what you need and bring me what’s left’.
“I always did what I could for her too an’ stood by her–but one time. That was when we was little girls goin’ together to fetch the mail. It was hot an’ dusty an’ we stopped to cool off an’ wade in the ‘branch’. We heard a horse trottin’ an’ looked up an’ there was Marster switchin’ his ridin’ whip an’ lookin’ at us. ‘Git for home, you two, and I’ll ‘tend to you,’ he says, an’ we got! But this time I let Miss Ella go to ‘the house’ alone an’ I sneaked aroun’ to Granny’s cabin an’ hid. I was afraid I’d git whupped! ‘Nother time, Miss Ella went to town an’ told me to keep up her fire whilst she was away. I fell asleep on the hearth and the fire done burnt out so’s when Miss Ella come home the room was cold. She was mad as hops. Said she never had hit me but she sure felt like doin’ it then.
“Yes’m, I been here a right smart while. I done lived to see three generations of my white folks come an’ go, an’ they’re the finest folks on earth. There use to be a reg’lar buryin’ ground for the plantation hands. The colored chillen use to play there but I always played with the white chillen. (This accounts for Aunt Betty’s gentle manner and speech.) Three of the old log cabins (slave cabins) is there yet. One of ’em was the ‘boys cabin’. (house for boys and unmarried men) They’ve got walls a foot thick an’ are used for store-rooms now. After freedom we buried out around our little churches but some of th’ old grounds are plowed under an’ turned into pasture cause the colored folks didn’t get no deeds to ’em. It won’t be long ‘fore I go too but I’m gwine lie near my old home an’ my folks.
“Yes’m, I remember Marse Israel Lash, my Pappy’s Marster. He was a low, thick-set man, very jolly an’ friendly. He was real smart an’ good too, ’cause his colored folks all loved ‘im. He worked in the bank an’ when the Yankees come, ‘stead of shuttin’ the door ‘gainst ’em like the others did, he bid ’em welcome. (Betty’s nodding head, expansive smile and wide-spread hands eloquently pantomime the banker’s greeting.) So the Yankees done took the bank but give it back to ‘im for his very own an’ he kep’ it but there was lots of bad feelin’ ’cause he never give folks the money they put in the old bank. (Possibly this explains the closing of the branch of the Cape Fear Bank in Salem and opening of Israel Lash’s own institution, the First National Bank of Salem, 1866.)
“I saw General Robert E. Lee, too. After the war he come with some friends to a meeting at Five Forks Baptist Church. All the white folks gathered ’round an’ shook his hand an’ I peeked ‘tween their legs an’ got a good look at’ im. But he didn’t have no whiskers, he was smooth-face! (Pictures of General Lee all show him with beard and mustache)
“Miss Ella died two years ago. I was sick in the hospital but the doctor come to tell me. I couldn’t go to her buryin’. I sure missed her. (Poignant grief moistens Betty’s eyes and thickens her voice). There wasn’t ever no one like her. Miss Kate an’ young Miss Julia still live at ‘the house’ with their brother, Marse Lucian (all children of the first Beverly Jones and ‘old Miss Julia’,) but it don’t seem right with Miss Ella gone. Life seems dif’rent, some how, ‘though there’ lots of my young white folks an’ my own kin livin’ round an’ they’re real good to me. But Miss Ella’s gone!
“Goodday, Ma’am. Come anytime. You’re welcome to. I’m right glad to have visitors ’cause I can’t get out much.” A bobbing little curtsy accompanies Betty’s cordial farewell.
Although a freed woman for 71 years, property owner for half of them, and now revered head of a clan of self respecting, self-supporting colored citizens, she is still at heart a “Jones negro,” and all the distinguished descendants of her beloved Marse Beverly and Miss Julia will be her “own folks” as long as she lives.